Mama...Post 1

   Sunday Feb 9th 2020
I crashed into bed at 9:30p.  Jason was at work, all the little kids were in bed, I couldn't stay awake anymore.  @12:30am my phone started ringing, I thought it was my alarm. It sounds the same. I  turned my alarm off, and then it started again immediately. I was totally confused.  I looked at the phone half asleep trying to figure out what going on...and saw the time.  I realized it was Corinne calling.  This can't be good news. "Mom's had a stroke, she's on the way to the hospital..."  -I'm awake...and there was no sleeping after that..within minutes of the call, Michael woke up sick...fever, cough, sore throat.

In her words...Mom had been sitting in her wheelchair at her computer desk typing an email when her arm stopped working.  She had been a bit forward in her chair and went to try and stand up so she could sit further back and she slid down to the floor -no power on her left side.  Luckily she had the phone tucked in her bra and she had enough strength on on her right side to still function.  She knew she was having a stroke but she didn't want the EMT's to bust down her door, so she called Darrell to see if he could bring a key.  He was on a Stand-up Flight in CA so he told mom to call 911 and then he called Tami to see if she could bring a key to the house. She was half asleep trying to fumble around in the truck to find the key. She realized "This is Stupid...bust down the stupid door"  And headed to mom's.

Meanwhile, (thankfully!) Brodie and Nicole had heard over the dispatch of a possible stroke victim at Mom's address.  Nicole told Brodie to get over there.  He had been able to see her in the office on the floor through the porch window, when Tami showed up, he was at the back door on the phone with dispatch asking for a specific truck to be able to get the door down.  But Tami just told him to bust it and threatened that if he wasn't going to kick in the door, she was going through the window.  With a little hip-bump he was able to get it...(nice security mom...)  Brodie was able to be with mom all the way to the hospital. -She appreciated it so much!  It was such a comfort to her to have him in the ambulance with her and taking care of her.

Kenny, Corinne and Tami stayed at the hospital all night with mom.  I wanted to be there...I was up all night getting updates from the family on her prognosis and taking care of Michael.

The next day, Darrell and Tami were able to get me on a buddy pass flight.  I was at the hospital by 8:30pm that night. 





   

Hone your Super Power to change your mindset...

A little over 2 years ago I was feeling so frustrated and defeated by what I felt was my lack of parenting skills.  My kids were ages 6 mon, 2, 4, 9, & 14.  It was a constant battle of trying to motivate them to keep their rooms clean, do their homework, help with the house chores and for Pete's sake just be kind to each other.  Recognizing that I am the parent and accountable for what I'm teaching them, I was constantly feeling like a failure. I was at a low point.  I felt like all I ever did was either nag, or yell.  Really inspiring right there! 😜 

Then I was introduced to Mind Hack by David Bayer.  I had been studying many other thought leaders on the subject of mental toughness and brain change but David puts it in such a succinct way with action steps I could follow and it made a huge difference...

I know the skeptic just came out and said "Yeah right!!"  But before you move on to scrolling Facebook again or looking at cats on Pinterest, hear me out.     

The problem isn't the problem...

What does that mean?  

It means by working through the mind hack process, I realized my problem wasn't what I thought it was.  I was spending so much time in suffering being sad and frustrated and depressed over my kid's behavior.  I thought my suffering was because my kids weren't listening. The story I had created as to why they weren't listening is that I wasn't teaching them how to behave better.  This meant that I wasn't doing my job as a parent.  I had attached my worth and ability as a parent to the behavior of my children, which of course made me feel terrible....

Can you relate? 

What I learned, is that you when you're in a suffering state of being, there is something that isn't aligned with who you really are.  Which meant something that I was believing, or telling myself about the situation wasn't true.  So if my story was false that my children's misbehavior meant I was a terrible parent...then what was the truth?...

The truth was simple...my children have agency, just like me...and when they choose differently than what I am teaching...doesn't make me a bad parent.  I can choose to detach their behavior from my worth and ability as a parent. This took a HUGE load off of my shoulders...because here's the real truth, I teach my kids EVERY DAY...EVERY DAY...EVERY DAY the way to behave and what's appropriate.  I work my tail off teaching them how to be a contributor in our family and because I care how they turn out, means that I am a GREAT Parent.  

So what?  What does that mean for you?  Are there ways that you are suffering in emotional pain, fear, frustration, anxiety, anger, sadness or any other negative emotion?  If Yes, then it means that your beliefs around the things you are suffering, are not in alignment with truth, of who you really are.  Want to get out of being stuck in suffering?  

Click the Link...Learn how to Hack your own mind.  

Hack your mind...David Bayer Mind Hack Program

Let me know what you discover...